Resource / Ego State Therapy



I love helping people find their way, it's so personally satisfying to see people develop their confidence and grow within themselves.


You can do anything you want to, you just might need a guiding hand to help you steer through the obstacles your emotions put up to protect you from too much change.


If you've ever felt stuck or trapped and unable to see a clear way forward, then Resource / Ego State Therapy can assist in the following areas: 



  • Gain clarity and understanding about your goals

  • Seeing things from a new perspective (thinking outside the box)

  • Overcome procrastination and figure out what is keeping you tied up in knots

  • Eliminate fear and self-doubt through understanding where they come from

  • Get focused on what is really important in your life and business, and help you navigate a pathway to it

  • Gain certainty about yourself and a sense of wellbeing, critical for anyone!

  • Ability to communicate powerfully, purposefully and with clear intent

  • Tools to turn challenges around and see the opportunities behind every perceived setback

  • Career transitioning

  • Personal development

  • Pathways to upskilling and training

  • Business coaching, including assistance to develop marketing plans

  • Seeing business opportunities

  • Goal setting

  • Understanding deadend jobs and how to turn them around, or leave without burnt bridges

  • Re-framing life skills into current vocational language

  • Depression

  • Trauma

  • Relaxation

  • Fears, phobias, anxiety disorders and panic attacks

  • PTSD

  • Dissociative disorders

  • Childhood sexual abuse

  • Dysfunctional family of origin issues

  • Assist to resolve childhood issues even if you don't remember them 

  • Anger, rage and behaviours you want or need to change

  • Stress minimisation and management


  • Grief and loss 

  • Workplace issues

  • Unwanted feelings and reactions

  • Addictions, obsessions and compulsions: drugs, gambling, alcohol, OCD and others

  • Behaviours causing problems in your work and life

  • Relationship issues

  • Affairs, and the fallout

  • Changing habits

  • Stop Smoking

  • Weight Loss

  • Relaxation 

  • Eating disorders 

  • Insomnia 

  • Self Esteem issues 

  • Public Speaking 

  • Social anxiety and nervousness

  • Overcome shyness 

  • Self-sabotage 

  • Performance Anxiety 

  • Dating and relationship skills

  • Study skills 

  • Work Related Stress and anxiety

  • Fatigue 

  • Personal Development and Growth 

  • Listening skills development

  • Not being heard

  • Feeling invisible in the world

  • Emotional reactions that others don't like

  • Therapeutic interventions

  • Finding peace and serenity

  • Strengthening your internal resource states

  • Gaining validation for past traumas

What are you ready to change?


A person typically goes to counselling to talk about what is happening to them, express their feelings and gain validation through being heard. But, rarely does a client get asked 'what are you ready to change today?'


We seek assistance for a variety of reasons, and often, without even realising it, not really know what it is that brings us to counselling; we only know we need 'help.' 


When you work with a Resource Therapist, you are going through a process that connects you to your feelings, thoughts, emotions and reactions that are at the root of why you sought help in the first place. 


We go to counselling to talk about something; something we don't like, something others don't like, or life issues that are confusing or weighing us down. With Resource Therapy, there is little talking or delving into a person's past. All that is really needed is a willingness and desire to create change in your own life.


Through a process of internal facilitation, or family therapy, our internal resource states that hold on to pain, hurt, shame, anger, betrayal and abandonment, as well as multiple other emotional responses, get an opportunity to heal through validation, expression, removal and relief.


Inside each of us is a rich diversity of resource states ready to help out if called upon. Some are nurturing states, some hold our flight or fight responses and others protect us.


Some of these states were formed in childhood, bringing their childhood coping strategies to the adult world, where they may be expressed as inappropriate anger, rage, fear and all the range of emotions that each of us feels in our day to day worlds. As we mature, some of our resource states remain connected to the original experience that brought out the reaction.


We call this the Initial Sensitising Event, and it can be something innocuous to us today, but highly traumatising to a child. A child's fear of being 'abandoned' by his or her parents as the result of a 'joke', may find themselves unable to form appropriate attachments as an adult, always fearing abandonment by those closest. 


As an adult, your resource state may cause you intense feelings of anxiety whenever you start to get too close to someone, and react by pushing them away or creating self-fulfilling experiences of loss when relationships become damaged.


Whatever it is you want to change, change can happen.